Who let’s who go?

I Let You Go

by

Clare Mackintosh

A Netgalley review

This is definitely a thriller/mystery where just who let who go changes every chapter. Until the very end you don’t know the answer.

I found it quite addictive writing and had to know just who was the bad guy. Who was the mother and whose child was let go? Why did the vehicle not stop? And who prevented it from stopping?

And is the photographer the mother or the driver? I changed my mind every other chapter. She was clearly haunted by something hence her running away but then people run away for lots of reasons.

What we come back to of course in the very end is an abusive husband and spousal abuse and the difficulty of keeping wives safe even in safe houses. It is often forgotten that abuse can be mental and emotional not just physical and that classically the removal of the wife from their circle of support is the first step towards total isolation and the need for them to require approval from only one person. Who can then undermine them very easily. Mental and emotional abuse is more common as a method of abuse amongst the middle classes it would seem.

http://www.womensaid.org.uk/ states that an analysis of 10 separate domestic violence prevalence studies found consistent findings: 1 in 4 women experience domestic violence over their lifetimes and between 6-10% of women suffer domestic violence in a given year (Council of Europe, 2002). 1.4 million women suffered abuse last year (http://www.theguardian.com/society/2015/feb) yet the numbers going to the police were very low in comparison to these figures. Yet the police force in Northumbria receive 83 calls a day relating to domestic violence. A study showed that women often suffer for more than three years before they get help. SafeLives estimates that at least 100,000 victims of domestic violence are at high risk of murder or serious injury in England and Wales, 94% of them women. “Domestic abuse is not a one-off violent attack. It is deliberate long-term use of coercion to control every part of the partner’s life. Violence, sexual abuse, financial control, constant criticism, isolating from family and friends are all familiar tools,” Vera Baird, former solicitor general and the current police and crime commissioner for Northumberland, said. http://www.theguardian.com/society/2015/feb/25/domestic-violence-could-be-stopped-earlier-study.

We can add to that some statistics from the US: Intimate partner violence, sexual violence, and stalking are important and widespread public health problems in the United States. On average, 20 people per minute are victims of physical violence by an intimate partner in the United States. Over the course of a year, that equals more than 10 million women and men. Those numbers only tell part of the story—nearly 2 million women are raped in a year and over 7 million women and men are victims of stalking in a year. http://www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/nisvs/. Intimate partner violence includes • Psychological aggression which is the use of verbal and nonverbal communication with the intent to harm another person mentally or emotionally and/or exert control over another person, and it is this type of abuse that we finally find out was in use in this book by the husband. This type of abuse can cause emotional harm. Victims may have trauma symptoms. This includes flashbacks, panic attacks, and trouble sleeping. Victims often have low self-esteem. They may have a hard time trusting others and being in relationships and so we see here.

Overall, I found this an excellent book and look forward to reading more by this author.

 

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